It’s very important for you guys to make up your mind about what you want in life and be congruent about pursuing it. That alone is enough to get women to start noticing you. If you need a pickup truck, you don’t look at sports cars.

And if you need a sports car, you don’t go looking at vans. Life is a bunch of choices, and if you’re out there saying to the broad, ”Hey listen, I’m a wuss, I can’t make up my mind, and I have no idea what I want for myself…and I’m trying to pick you up to maybe see if you’re what I want.” Yet this is exactly what a lot of you guys are doing! If you had to be a word, would you choose to be the word ‘yes’ or the word ‘maybe’? A lot of you guys are walking ‘maybes’, and it’s costing you the women of your dreams.

Competence breeds confidence. There’s a lot of people trying to use techniques in order to feel more confident, but it won’t work unless you develop your competence simultaneously. And you won’t have my kind of confidence after you put down this book. You will only get confidence as you use what I’m teaching you, as you get results in any slow way you wish. I wish I could just give it to you, but you’re going to have to earn it the old fashioned way.

Another way to help increase your competence is to go out and read a few books. Study ‘the cunt’. I know more about their anatomy than they do.

When I discuss sex with a woman, I come to the table with knowledge. I know everything about her body, her sexuality. You can even start your conversation with her by saying something like, “I know so much about the clitoris, you’d never believe how much I know about sex. Go ahead and ask me any question. Ask me something you think only women would know about.” Start off a conversation like that, and if you’re not fucking her by the end of the night, then it’s safe to say you’re an idiot.

Some men have actually looked me straight in the eye and told me that the reason they can’t get women is because they don’t like themselves. Do you jerk off? There’s two kinds of people in this world. People who jerk off, and liars. And even if they’re telling you the truth, you gotta think that there’s something wrong with someone if they don’t jerk off. When you masturbate, you are giving yourself pleasure with your own hand. Of course you love yourself! There’s another line you can use. “The only other person that I want touching me, besides me, is you.”

I like to tell the bitchy ones, “Isn’t it better to try me before you just throw me away?”

I never put my head in the sand. Nothing pushes me back, and I don’t retreat. Because whether she wants me or not, I can always jerk off. If they say no, then it’s no. I never harm them, and I never threaten them. If I can’t get her interested in me with my charm and my honesty, then I don’t want her. I only want to be with women who want me. It’s my way or the highway.

Guys are always asking me about the ‘super hot ones’ and that can mean only two things. Either I think she’s hot by my standards or he thinks she’s hot by his standards. You have to treat them all the same because they really are all the same. That’s what you finally realize after having slept with a lot of women.

They all have a variation of the same thing. Since they’re all the same, you don’t have to worry about treating them differently.

If you’re afraid, get rid of the fear and your problems with women disappear.

A woman is a very funny kind of person. You’re not a millionaire, you’re not a rock star, and you’re not a movie star. If you are, then you can have just about any woman you want. Many years ago, I had a friend who had this crazy theory, and the older I got, the more his theory started making sense to me.
This guy never wanted to go out with regular women. The only women he wanted to date were hookers. He says that women are all hookers anyway, because they all want something from a guy, usually money. He says that it’s cheaper to go out with prostitutes than it is to have a girlfriend or a wife. And he’s 100% right about that. But you see, most of us were brought up to want more than just fucking. We want to get to know the girl, and we develop romantic feelings for her. We want to have a little bit of a hard time once in a while.

If you don’t have the courage to be honest with yourself and with women, then you are a dingleberry. You know what a dingleberry is? It’s that little piece of shit that sticks to the hair of your ass. A dingleberry is so close to the pussy but never makes it all the way to the front. So if you want to be a dingleberry for the rest of your life and make excuses for why you can’t get women, continue.

But if you decide to take a fuckin’ chance and be honest, you won’t believe the transformation in the way women will respond to you.
I don’t think there’s any reason why you can’t look at somebody and just simply tell him or her whatever fear is going through your mind. If you have a job, they didn’t come over to your parents’ house and drag you to the job and make you work for them. You have to go out there and get it. I wasn’t born this way. I used to actually be shy when I was younger. I went through shyness too, but I got over it fast. I was too horny to be shy. Sometimes I tell shy guys to just stop jerking off for a month or two.

Focus on what you want, and be honest with yourself. If I see a woman and I think, “I’d really like to fuck her on the hood of my car”, that’s all I’m thinking about. I’m a simple man. If you’re shy, it’s because you are thinking too much. Just look at these big, dumb jocks and see how they pick up women.

They may be dumb-asses, but they’re keeping it simple.

We’re so busy making excuses in order to justify our shyness. But the fact of the matter is that you create shyness. You have to imagine getting rejected or somehow embarrassed. You need to actually sit there, see an attractive woman, defocus your eyes, make internal images of her and/or other people rejecting you and laughing at you, and then you need to use those internal images as an excuse to talk yourself out of approaching her. What an incredible waste of energy. I don’t care if you were abused as a child because that’s over now.

Sometimes I wish my parents had abused me when I was a child because it might have gotten me on Oprah.

I know what’s going through your minds. “I’m not good looking enough for her.” “I’m not tall enough.” “I’m not rich enough.” “I’m not funny enough” “I’m not slim enough.” “I’m not big enough.” “My dick is too small.” And my all time favorite: “I have low self-esteem!”

I just did a consultation with a guy from England. He needed my help, so he called me up from London and asked me, “How do you fuck a super gorgeous looking woman, who looks like a model, has a terrible attitude and doesn’t like my face?”

Answer: You don’t — unless you’re me. Because once you acquire my level of skill they’ll be easy. And that’s because of the confidence that I have achieved over the years. You get confidence from getting numbers. And I’m not talking about phone numbers. The more women you sleep with and satisfy, the more competent you become and the more confidence you will have. I don’t know of any way to get around that. Confidence has to be earned.

When you choose to deal with those kinds of women, you need to figure out where the attitude comes from in the first place. As you talk with her, you should at least have an idea of where it stems from. With a woman like that you just say something like, “You know, you’re so good looking, you’re so beautiful, that I’d almost be willing to be a rag for you to wipe your ass with, but I’d never do that. Cause I’d have to protect you.” I’ll say anything. I never back down and put my tail between my legs.
Why do guys hold back? Why are they paralyzed with fear? Why can’t they just walk up to any woman on the street and say “hello”? It’s because they are trying to figure out what the woman is thinking. What will she think if I say this? What will she say if I do that?

Will she like me? They are trying to read her mind. Look, if she isn’t responsive to you, who cares? It doesn’t matter what she thinks. What is it that you think? Tell her. Think out loud.

By the way, I don’t fight over pussy with other men. If you need her that bad, you can have her. And the fact that you are so desperate for her means that she will eventually get rid of you anyway. If you catch your girlfriend in bed with another guy, why should you be pissed at him? She probably lied to him anyway. But our male egos, which are nothing more than a distorted illusion that we carry around in our heads, makes us angry and makes us want to beat up the guy. If you ever catch your girlfriend or wife in bed with another guy, do yourself a favor and keep your cool. Have the confidence to say, “I hope you two will be happy together” and just walk away. Go to the next girl. While you guys are busy beating each other up, I’ll be fucking them.

There is no need for any jealousy in my life. Jealousy is just wasted energy. If you take a girl out and she flirts too much with other guys, getting jealous will only cause her to do it more. Women love to test you by trying to make you jealous, so know that when you’re jealous you are giving her control over you.

If a broad is out to make you jealous, then the smart thing to do is just to ignore her and go pick up another woman right in front of her.

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