Now, getting women is one thing. Getting them is easy. Keeping them is a whole different story. Now that is where the hard work comes in. It’s my kind of attitude that keeps them begging for more. You guys can’t afford to be lazy in a relationship. You have to keep this attitude going at all times. And it’s going to take a lot of hard work to achieve my level of confidence, let’s face it.

Start small and build. You’ll get there soon enough.

When I first started out, I loved big tits. I was a Tit Man. Then I became an Ass Man. Then, began looking first at their crotches.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What you like about a woman I may not like. A lot of it has to do with the mood that you’re in as well. When you’re in a good, happy state, you may want a pretty face to love. When you’re in a bad mood, you may be looking for a nice big ass to fuck. There was a period in my life when I was only doing threesomes and orgies. I couldn’t just fuck one girl anymore. Too boring!

I don’t chase after women! I don’t beg, I don’t try to please them. Guys are always worried if they’re good-looking enough. My attitude is hey, “My dick is better than his dick. Taste them both–you’ll see!” Guys, just let the women worry about their own looks. They’re good at it. Looks mean nothing. It’s how you make a woman FEEL that is important. And they want a strong guy.

They want a MAN, not a pussy that is worried about his looks.

It’s the lesbians that don’t want men. They want pussies, they want male friends that are gay and won’t touch them. Lesbians want a guy to say, “Yes dear. Anything you want dear.” They can all be girls together. They don’t want a man; they want someone that they can control.

Now, these broads that want to lead you around by the nose, as soon as they start to lead you, as soon as they decide when and what, you’re going to be in trouble because it’s not her role. If you give the woman in the relationship all your power, if you give her the steering wheel, you will crash.

Guys are always asking me, “How do you get them back after a break-up?”

Easy! Most of you guys are thinking that women are complicated, but they’re not. Let me give you an example, to show you how easy it really is. One time I was doing a consultation with a guy, and he had this tendency to overcomplicate everything. While we were talking, this woman that I knew very well called me on the phone. So after a minute of listening to her, I put down the phone and continued on with the meeting. She was just blabbing away incessantly about something or other.

And every couple of minutes, I would pick up the phone and go, “UMHMM, UHhuh, Yeah.” and put it down again. After 15 minutes of this, I picked up the phone and told her what I had done, I told her how I had put the phone down and ignored her for so long. She never believed it! Women never believe what you tell them. I don’t know why, but it’s true.

If you want to get a girl back, try saying, “No matter how many girls I’ve been with, no matter how many girls I meet, all I see is your face instead of theirs. I need to see you again.” That’s it! Just say that and she is yours. Of course, if you were a real ass to her, if you treated her like shit, beat her up, acted like a pussy, if she caught you in bed with a MAN, then you probably should be on the Jerry Springer show. Otherwise it’s easy.

Being romantic doesn’t mean that you’re weak. After you’ve got them, romance will keep them. You have to be her fantasy, her knight in shining armor. That takes hard work. Another way to get her back is to send a single red rose to her house, no name, no card. Wait a week, send another one.

This time with a card, with no name, that simply says, “Whenever I see these flowers, I think of you, and I have to send you one.”

Then you send her a third flower. Write on the card, “No matter how many girls I see, I only see your face. Call me. 555-9087″ She will call you because women love to hear “I’m thinking about you”.

If you want a girl to trust you, it’s easy. If you want her to love you, it’s easy. Just tell her not to. Women never believe what you tell them.

When I talk about honesty, trust, and respect, I might say something like, “But I don’t want you to trust me yet. Trust has to be earned. When you feel you can trust me, you’ll let me know.” As soon as you tell her that you don’t want her to trust you, she will.

Guys ask me all the time, “How do you get a girl to swallow?” Too easy. One thing you can try is to tell her that no woman can make you cum with her mouth. Tell her that lots of women have tried, but none have ever succeeded.

Tell her something like that and she will rise to the challenge. Then, after she makes you cum, you say, “WOW! You’re amazing! Nobody has EVER been able to do that!” Because if you tell a woman that you can’t cum from a blowjob, something inside her will go, “OH YEAH?” They like the challenge.

NEED INPUT: One of my favorite jokes is a joke that can tell you a lot about the way you have to look at things. Two women meet in Florida. One has a married son, the other has a daughter that’s married. So, the women bump into each other on the street, and one of them says to the other, “Helen, how are you? How’s the family?”

The other woman said, “My daughter just got married…she could have done better. He is nice to her and brings her groceries and stuff, but he still makes her do this and that and the other…he’s not good enough for my daughter. And you…how is your son?” “He got married too! He married a real bitch…she makes him go to the grocery store, she makes him jump, she gives him shit.

There’s plenty for us out there. Women are everywhere! Buses, bookstores, planes, trains, everywhere! But you need to be the one driving. You say, “JUMP!” and they go, “How high?”

I am a gentleman, but I’m still a macho prick who grew up in the 70′s and 80′s. I’m a man, and she does what I like. If she doesn’t like it, then there are other women out there. In my house there’s a dictatorship, not a democracy. The same is true for my employees.

My employees don’t get to vote for what is right in MY business. Why?
Because that’s the way I want to run my life. I know where I am going in my life; I know what I want for myself.

It’s easy to get back the old one’s, but I don’t like to do that. If you want to get her back, I can tell you exactly what you do, and if you follow my explicit advice you’ll get her back.

But most of you should just let her go and move forward, because when you get her back you’ll suddenly remember why you broke up in the first place! I find that the main reason men want to move backwards has to do with pride.

Men have always had too much pride anyway, so know more. Life is a series of mistakes, and the quicker you can learn those tough lessons and move on…

I was the first guy out of all my friends to get his own apartment. In those days, life was a little too good. I’d come home from work and there would be 3 or 4 girls there. I’d walk in and say, “Who’s horny?” I’d fuck them before I even took a shower. Then a friend or two of mine would come over and I would ask, “Which one of you girls wants to fuck him, and which one wants to fuck my other friend?” All of my friends used to get laid in my apartment. AHHH…the good old days!

As a commodity, men don’t look at the statistics. Men are more in demand than women are. They make us think it’s the other way around, but it’s not!

But we’re stupid, we think with our peckers.

You shouldn’t be afraid to ask for what you want. I like women who know how to cook, so I ask them if they know how to cook. Have her cook you a meal or two to find out. I also need to know how they live. Who is her roommate? Does she keep her house clean? I also need to meet her friends, and that’s very important if you’re looking to have a relationship with her.

You are who your friends are. If she has a lot of single friends, you’re in trouble. You’re fucked, because her single friends will sabotage the relationship because they want her to remain single.

Now, I don’t want you to be me, I want you to be YOU. Start by being honest with yourself.

He who loves least controls the relationship. If you want to control the relationship, don’t fall in love with her so quickly! Don’t toss the ball in their court, control the ball at all times. And you’ve got to be relentless — you can’t afford to be lazy.

Now, every once in a while, and especially as you learn to develop this attitude, a woman will tell you that she loves you. If you say, “I love you too”, then you’re fucked!

You might as well chop off your dick and hand it to her.

Remember, the person who loves the least controls the relationship. I have only said, “I love you” to two women in my life. I married them both. I tell them, “When I tell a woman that I love her, it’s because I’m also putting a ring on her finger.”

They don’t want a guy who is easy. See, we want a woman that’s easy, but not them! If you go around saying, “Me too,” you will lose them. They want a strong guy that makes them feel secure. Physical strength is irrelevant. You need to be mentally strong and know what you want to do in life. You need to be decisive.

When you set a precedence, you have to stick to your guns. If you tell her no, and then later on for whatever reason you allow her, she will view you as weak. Give them an inch and they will take a mile. Stop making excuses and exceptions. When you set a precedence you can’t go back. One of the big diseases that happens to men that are in a relationship is laziness. You have to do what YOU want relentlessly.

You cannot give in ever. They want the strength and they will love you for it. You always have to be on top of the situation.

What happens to most guys is that once they fuck her, they doze off. They get lazy.

It’s the same thing with meeting them. The follow through is important. Now, when she steers the conversation toward sex (for whatever reason), I’ll say something like, “You seem to have sex on your mind more than I do.” Or I say, “I don’t want to talk about sex right now.”
When she asks why, I say, “Because I only like talking about sex when I know I’m going to be getting some.” Now when she brings up sex again I know I’ve got her! You always want to lead the conversation right from the beginning.

I like to tell them that maybe we won’t get that far (sex). Because after I get to know her, I may not want sex from her. I tell women that I’m not sure if I want to sleep with them yet, I tell them, “We’ll see–let me get to know you first.” Don’t they do that to us? I’m just doing what they do. When you tell a woman that you don’t know if you want to sleep with her, she will love your confidence.

Women want a confident guy who knows what he wants.

I am the dictator of my own life and my relationships. You can’t rely on the woman to take good care of you. She wants YOU to be the strong one to take the lead. Not every woman is going to want to go where you want to go. But you should never have to compromise yourself for her. You should know what you want out of life and not be afraid to go get it. Women find this very attractive. Read Cosmopolitan and you’ll see.

The first thing women will say about a failing relationship is, “We just aren’t communicating anymore.” So make sure you say right from the beginning of the relationship that you need a woman that can communicate. Not only will this attract her initially, but this gives you great leverage later on.

Guys ask me all the time how to deal with a girlfriend that flirts with other guys.

Usually what they do is tell her to stop it. That rarely works, because she will think that you are too insecure. If your girlfriend is flirting with other men, then you should be picking up other women. If she’s hunting then you should be hunting. And if she complains, tell her to fuck off. Tell her that if she wants to flirt, then you are going to flirt. I’ve even gone as far as to leave with another woman right in front of her.

Why wouldn’t I? It’s the smart thing to do.

Many years ago, I was driving in my convertible with a woman, and all the truckers were staring at her because she just happened to have no shirt on! She put her boobs on display for everyone to enjoy. So we stopped at a gas station, and as I came out, this gorgeous woman asked me if I had any booster cables. She said that she just wanted to give her car back to her ex-boyfriend so that she could leave for Houston. So I told her that I could bring her to Houston, boosted her car and followed her to her ex-boyfriend’s where she left the car and hopped in with us. So now I had two women in my car, and they were both gorgeous.

One the way to Houston, we stopped for dinner, ate, and checked into a motel. I asked the guy at the motel, “Do you have a room with one big bed?”

Two small beds pushed together was the best he could do. The girls were helping me push the two beds together! I didn’t ask if they felt comfortable with it, I just took the lead and assumed that they would both be sleeping with me. And they did.

Now, the woman I picked up at the gas station was TWICE as good in bed as the other one, so I told her to wait for me in the hotel room.

Then I went downstairs and told the clerk that it would take me 4 hours to drop off the other girl and come back, and asked him to let her stay in the room. He said OK, so I grabbed the girl and off we went. As I was driving her home, she asked me if I was dumping her and I said yes. I said, “Look, I’m sorry, but this new girl is better in bed.” She started crying and begging me to give her another chance.

Why did I do this to her? She got what she deserved for taking her shirt off in the beginning and flirting with all those truck drivers!

Now, let’s talk a little bit about a special breed of women that I call Cling-ons.

Cling-ons are jealous, insecure, and very possessive. They never want you to look at other women, they want to be with you all the time, and they are very easily hurt. There’s two ways you can handle a Cling-on.

In the beginning of the relationship, I like to tell Cling-ons that I’m the kind of guy that needs to be around women. I tell them that women are like flowers to me, and that I need to be in a florist shop. Can you handle me sleeping with another woman? I tell her that I have to sleep with other women. If she gives in and says yes, then you’ve handled her beautifully. If she says no, then you dump her. You’re better off without her.

I like to be honest with them upfront to avoid any hassles later on.

You will find that the Cling-ons will accept you sleeping with other women, if you TELL THEM that you’re sleeping with other women.

That’s because their worst nightmare is NOT that you sleep around with other women, their worst nightmare is NOT KNOWING ABOUT IT. They find it so horrible to NOT KNOW, that telling them the truth in advance actually reassures them.

There’s a lot of things you can do to keep them in line. I always love it when a woman licks my asshole because it gives me incredible leverage in the relationship. From then on, anytime she starts giving me a hard time, I just say, “A woman who licks my asshole doesn’t talk to me that way!” It’s a lot better than a punch in the nose! What can she say? That I’m a pig? Hey, it wasn’t MY tongue down there!

I want you to picture a room that has a shotgun, a machete, a machine gun, some dynamite, a few handguns, and the word ‘friend’ in it. Because the word ‘friend’ is one of her major weapons. It’s the only weapon that can make you dance!

Now, I know a lot of guys that are willing to hang out with women and pretend to be their friend and chase after them and follow them around to go shopping. I knew a guy who traveled half-way around the world to be a lady’s friend! And he would watch her get dolled-up to go out and sleep with other guys but couldn’t do anything because they were ‘friends’. He was, of course, secretly in ‘love’ with her, but was afraid to be himself I guess. I’m glad that there are a lot of men like him in the world, because it means more women for me!

Here is a big problem that a lot of you guys have. You talk about companionship. You talk about wanting to have a relationship with a woman, and then you talk about hot chicks, and how many you can or can’t get.

Which do you want?? You have to go down Road Definite. You have to be congruent about whatever it is that you want, especially with women.

When I was looking for a wife, I got my wife, I got my kids, and that’s what I wanted. And when I wanted to be single, I wasn’t out there looking for Ms. Perfect. I didn’t think about anything other than fucking.
In fact, fucking was my hobby. Different bodies, different styles, different ways.

When I was young, I had a recurring fantasy about picking up a hitchhiker. So I did it. I picked up hitchhikers. I would say to them, “I can’t believe this! I was just fantasizing about this exact same situation! Everything you’re saying is exactly what I was fantasizing! This is so cool!” They would say, “Really?!” They were amazed!

I got so bored, and it was so easy that I started telling women that I worked for the CIA. The danger turns them on. I used to say, “Call me from the phone booth, and whatever you do, do NOT call me from your house!” I had one woman wait for me at a phone booth for four straight hours!

One time I had a date with a woman who seemed really nice and sweet on the phone, but as soon as she got in my car, she proceeded to tell me her schedule. She had to go to this restaurant in this part of town and her friends were gonna be there and then we were gonna drive back this way and go to this hotel and stay for this amount of time and then to this club and on and on.

So I said, “Did you feel that?” And she said, “What?” I said, “I think there’s something unexpected happening with my car.” She said, ”Huh?” So I pulled over and said, “Hop out and take a look at the back tire, and tell me if it looks flat.” So she gets out of the car and says, “It looks fine to me.” And I said, “Maybe to you it does!” and rode off.
Because if I would have driven her around all night like she wanted me to, I would have been her puppy forever.

I don’t wear a leash for anybody.

When it comes to women, never underestimate the power of denial. He drinks, he is angry, violent, treats her like shit, and even after all that she can convince herself that he loves her, and she stays.

Women are actually willing to lie to themselves about the men they are with. Guys do it too, but women definitely beat us in that department. She stays for his strength, for the security she feels when she’s with him. I would never dream of physically hurting a woman, and I’ve never hit a woman. I don’t need to. I hit them with honesty, trust and respect, and that works a lot better than a punch in the nose.

If you offend a girl by being “too honest” and you sense she is turned off then you will need to handle it. One way is to say, “I’m kidding! I’m kidding!” and she will usually calm down and say something like, “That was pretty rude” and then I’ll lower my voice completely and say, “Well I really wasn’t kidding”.

(Laughter)

You can test them like they test you. “Wanna fuck?” and if she responds well you take her home and if she gets all pissy you tell her how you’re just kidding. Actually…no. I’m not kidding!

This is one that you can always come back to. Just kidding…no I’m not. You always keep control of the situation. Control is vital. If she says, “Get the fuck away from me”, you leave. You’ll find that getting rejected rarely happens when you get out there and start being honest to women.

Women are brought up to punish you when you’ve been bad. They punish by being bitchy and by withholding sex. If they try to punish me I take control of the situation immediately. “You’re right, honey, I’m a pig, asshole, cock sucker, slime bag, sleaze ball, piece of shit inconsiderate conceited jerk”. By encouraging her ‘bad’ behavior you are taking control of it. I don’t argue with them, because it’s my way or the highway. If you get defensive you’re actually giving up control.

If the relationship starts to get too fucked up, i.e., the sex isn’t worth the hassle, don’t waste your time trying to repair the relationship, just leave! Don’t waste your time. When your car is giving you too many problems and you get fed up of fixing it, do you argue with the car for eight more months just to see if it will get better with time? You stop investing your time and money on that car and start putting your energy into finding a better one.

We all have different tolerance levels for how much crap we are willing to take in our relationships. I have a low tolerance for bullshit. I want what I want and I am unashamed by it.

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