You’re also entitled to change your mind about things. What’s a good decision today won’t necessarily be good for you tomorrow. When I wanted to be a playboy, I enjoyed that lifestyle. But eventually I thought, ”Hey! I’m 45 and I want kids.” So I got married again and had some kids. I don’t want to be too old for them. And I was ready at that stage to stop being a player because I’ve done it all. I satisfied my thirst, and boy was I thirsty!

And when it comes to respect, I respect a woman very, very much. And always. If I put my hand on her thigh, and she says no, I remove it immediately. You don’t want my hand on your leg? Fine. I don’t tease you like you’re teasing me, but fine. If she says, “I don’t want to be with you”, I cease hitting on her immediately, forever. Walking away from them is the easiest thing in the world. All you have to do is put one foot in front of the other until she’s gone. Either that or pretend that she’s gone. Who were we just talking about?

A friend of mine had a verbal argument with his girlfriend. And this is a true story. She called the cops on him and had him removed from his own house, filed a restraining order on him, and he had to pay thousands of dollars in legal fees to get her to leave the house.

Women have a lot of power, too. They can scream ‘rape’ or any similar word and it could cost you your reputation. And let’s face it, some women are crazy. If you want to be a playboy you’re gonna learn that the hard way.

Honesty is the ‘True North Principle’ of seduction and seems to me to be the hardest one to teach. People just go, “Honesty. Ok, got it… Next!” and then they want to hear the next pickup line or strategy.

They don’t work at learning how to integrate honesty into their lives. But the South Pole and the North Pole don’t change, and neither do the main principles: “Who cares what she thinks” and “I am the most important person in this relationship.” If you can learn those two rules, you’ve got it made and you will never need any outside help again. You will finally know exactly what to say to them and how to act with them. They love me because I’m honest. I’m more honest with them than most of you will ever be.

I’m not telling you to be like me. Because my honesty and your honesty are two different animals. You can’t be me, you can’t be James Bond, you can’t be them so why even try? When you start to develop more and more self-honesty in yourself, you’ll start to feel better, and when you start feeling better, the women will notice. You won’t believe the responses you’ll get from them! Honesty is a scary thing, and some of them can’t handle the truth.

Honesty. Trust. Respect. It’s one thing to demand them from her, but can you master them yourself? Let me ask you another question. How can you be afraid of something that will set you free? We don’t realize how we constantly lie to ourselves to protect our ego. Honesty, trust and respect are “True North” principles that never change. They are part of the basic fabric of life. Honesty, trust and respect are natural laws in the human dimension that are just as real as gravity and seasons and the rotation of our planet around the sun. They are unchanging principles, no exceptions. And when you violate the natural laws of relationships, you create disharmony.

Do you have employees? The greatest force that you can use to motivate someone with is trust. Trust brings out the very best in people. But it takes time and patience and it doesn’t preclude the necessity to train and develop. It’s very hard to train an employee if he or she doesn’t trust you to some degree.

And that’s where the honesty comes in. When you’re honest with people, they begin to trust you at their own rate and speed.

They all say they want to meet a guy who’s honest, yet they can’t handle honesty. It’s ironic. I like that. It puts me in the driver’s seat. You’re probably not getting them now, so how much less could you be getting them? Take a fucking chance.

Try being totally honest with women.

I stopped counting at 500. I had ‘stables’ (between 3 and 7 girlfriends simultaneously) from 1984 until 1989. People ask, “Did you tell your girlfriends about each other?” And that’s a good question. Now, early on in my life I discovered that women never believe what you tell them anyway, so you might as well tell them the truth. See, women are masters of self-deception.

If they ask, “What did you do last night?” and you respond, “I went out with another girl”, she’ll just say, “Yeah, what did you really do last night?” The truth shall set you free.

I often talk about the three most important values in a relationship. In order, they are honesty, trust, and respect. I like to ask women, “What do YOU think are the most important values in a relationship?”

And usually they will tell me things like communication, respect, humor, etc. Wrong. And it’s not open for discussion, either. So I’ll say, “You’re almost right”, but if they say, “Honesty, trust, and respect” I’ll say, “WOW! You’re the first one to hit it right on!”

Honesty, trust and respect.

Tell her that you enjoy being open and saying what’s really on your mind. Tell her how much you enjoy thinking out loud, tell her that it’s important to you to be in a relationship with someone that you can really communicate with. Tell her that you’re not the kind of person that holds back his feelings.

And guess what? This is exactly the kind of thing that they are looking for. They want a guy that can communicate with them. One of their biggest complaints is that guys don’t communicate with them. 90 percent of what therapists and divorce lawyers hear is, “There’s no communication”. So, what’s the smart thing to say to women? That you like to communicate.

I went out with a girl who was the former Miss Montreal. She was gorgeous. When I used to take her out, all the rich hockey players and rock stars would turn their heads and stare at her.

I ended up falling for her sister. She wasn’t as cute, but she was twice as good in bed. Actually, I wanted to fuck all the sisters. One day she asked me if I planned on fucking her sisters. How do you answer a question like that? Simple. Be honest. I said, “Yes, but I’ll leave your underage sisters alone.”

If a woman doesn’t want you because you’re a man, then she doesn’t want you at all. And if you’re afraid of being an honest man, then you’re not ready to be successful with women.

Being honest in the relationship does not mean that I have to reveal everything. I reveal what I want to reveal. I have given myself full permission to say and do whatever I please, and this includes having secrets. You think women don’t keep secrets from us?

I cannot stress the importance of being honest and upfront with the woman enough, especially in the beginning of the relationship. I like to tell them a story about a woman I once dated who woke me up to tell me something very important.

She was the first woman I dated after I got divorced. She taught me the importance of giving somebody a fair chance.

She told me that she felt that I wasn’t giving her a clean slate, meaning that my responses to her were mixed because of all the leftover residue from my previous marriage. She was right!

My responses to her were polluted with all the junk I had collected over the years, and I wasn’t being fair to her. She taught me the importance of giving everyone a clean slate. It’s important to give everybody a fair chance in the beginning of the relationship.

I tell them right off the bat that I don’t play games and that I want an open and honest relationship. I ask her if she can handle that. If she hesitates, then I put her on the defensive. I tell her that she should know what she wants, and that perhaps she should think it over and get back to me.

Maybe she should make me a contract now so that there are no hard feelings and arguments later on.

They don’t want a pussy, they want a man. It doesn’t matter what she thinks, because honesty, trust, and respect are always going to be more important than anything else that she says anyway. By being honest, you earn trust. And there are only two kinds of respect: Fear and Admiration. I’ll take what I can get.

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