I’m giving you two rules. Not two-hundred. TWO:

1) Who cares what she thinks … and

2) You are the most important person in the relationship.

And at first, they sound like two very stupid rules. But every time you hear them, they start to make more and more sense to you. If you don’t care what she thinks, then your fears are gone. And if you truly believe that you are the most important person in the relationship, then you start to take responsibility for your own life. It forces you to be strong, decisive, honest and congruent. What you decide is up to you.

I’m not telling you to be me, I’m telling you to be you.

You’re not being rude to her by not caring what she says. There’s a façade of nonsense that people put out, and you don’t know if they’re playing games or fucking with you. These two rules are your shield from all that shit. These rules really have a way of cutting through all the crap.

Men are free until they get married, and women are free when they get married. Once I was dating this girl who said, “Either we have to get married, or I won’t sleep with you anymore.”

And I felt bad. Here was this woman telling me that she loves me, that she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. She wanted all of me, and if I couldn’t give that to her, then she would leave me forever. A lot of guys actually got stuck that way. They fell for that line. But what was this woman really saying to me? She was really saying, “Do what I say, puppy! Marry me so that I can use sex to control you for the rest of your life.” Now, if you had a harem of 5 or 6 women, and a woman said that to you, what would you say? “Goodbye!”

A lot of guys are afraid to look at the women that attract them.

They’re afraid she might get upset. If I’m watching a porno movie, if I feel like it, I might start jerking off. Do I care what the TV thinks? I don’t care what anybody thinks. Period.

When I say ‘who cares’, I live it. If she can’t handle me looking at her, what the fuck do I want her for?

When you want seafood, and you go out to a restaurant, and they don’t have seafood on the menu, you leave. Same thing. If a slut doesn’t have what I want on her menu, I don’t try to accommodate her. I don’t care!

Tell me to fuck off anytime. Try me. I don’t care. If you don’t care, you can just let go and have a good time. What do I have to lose if they get ‘offended’? I can only gain. When you’re trying to pick up a chick, no matter what you do, you can ONLY GAIN. You can’t have less than zero. If you care what they think of you, then you can’t go further. And if you can’t be honest and straightforward about what you want, you can’t succeed with women. This whole book is just a way of explaining the two rules. It always comes back to the two basic rules. If you can integrate those two rules into your life, it frees you from Fear Prison.

I’m the most important person in my relationships, my rules rule. I don’t live by your rules, I live by my rules. If a woman starts telling me all these rules about how far she can go on the first date and the second date and on and on, I might turn to her and say, “Can I get a copy of all those rules now please, because I’d like a spontaneous relationship, and if you have all these rules that I can’t touch you until a certain period of time has elapsed, or something equally ridiculous, then I need to know what they are now, not in six months from now. And while we’re at it, since we’re giving out rules, I’ve got a few of my own.” Don’t play games with these women.

One of the things women have always told me that they like about me is that I listen to them. See, most guys think that they listen, but they are not listening. Guys are always interrupting them to give advice and help, and guys are constantly getting in their way. A lot of men try to take responsibility for the woman’s problems, and guess what? That’s impossible.

Who cares what they say. You can listen to them, but don’t ever get caught up with whatever they are saying to you. Just listen to them. They want you to hear them, that’s all. This is great news! From now on you are free from having to solve all those stupid little problems that are freaking them out.

Just listen, and let her get it all out. Don’t get involved in all of her little dramas. One of the reasons they are looking for a man is because men are supposed to be more emotionally stable than women. Men are a lot more logical (sometimes) and less emotional than women are. We’re supposed to be strong for them. They don’t want a pussy, they want a strong man. Not a macho man, not an asshole, they want a strong guy. How do you make yourself strong? By not caring what they think. By knowing that no matter what happens, the most important person you need to look out for is you.

When you really start succeeding with women, some of them are going to try to give you a hard time about it. But if you truly don’t care what they say then you’re free from all that shit. If a broad tries to give you a hard time about anything, the worst thing you can do is get defensive and try to convince her of your sincerity. I remember this one girl who started in on me about my reputation as a ‘player’. I didn’t argue, I told her that everything people say about me is true. What can she say? She is stuck. I’m not going to argue with her. In this culture, we spend so much time thinking and arguing when we could be fucking.

The most important person in the relationship is you, but you still need to ask women what their rules are in a relationship.

You’re better off finding out what her rules are now, because women have some strange and limiting rules. And don’t get caught up in a big debate about the rules either. It’s my way or the highway. Who cares what they think? If she doesn’t want me, then maybe she knows someone that might and could introduce me to her. She can’t fuck until after the 7th date?

Fine! “Maybe you know someone who is a little less rigid?”

I tell women that I have one major rule. “My way, or the highway.” No hard feelings, it’s just the way I like it. “If you can find a guy that better suits your needs, then go for it.

Because my rules are not negotiable. I know what’s best for myself and I know what I want in a woman. And if I am not being reasonable, know that if you leave me, at least you will be able to tell people that I wasn’t a reasonable man. I’ll even give you a letter of recommendation saying that I wasn’t a reasonable man.”

I don’t care about what anybody thinks of me. I love the way I am. I like myself. I have evolved into the kind of person that I like, and if I were a woman, I would want to be with me very much. You have to learn to make your rules and stick to them no matter what. If you give them an inch, they’ll take a mile. Be relentless. Don’t make excuses, don’t get lazy, and don’t make exceptions.

I once dated a girl who told me that she only let’s her boyfriends fuck her 12 times a year. She actually told me this seriously! She said that if a guy is smart, he will fuck her once a month, because if he uses up his 12 fucks right away, he will have to wait until the next year to get sex again! So, I fucked her 4 times a day for three days and then I said goodbye.

She asked, “Where are you going?” I told her that since I had already used up my twelve tickets, then there was no point in sticking around any longer. I told her that it was OK, that I respected her rules and wasn’t going to ask for another fuck, and after all, did she really expect me to beg?

She ended up chasing me for the next five years. Why?

Because I make the rules, not them.

I don’t care what they think. I’m not getting into relationships to make women happy, I do what I want on my terms otherwise it’s goodbye. And the paradox is that it’s my kind of attitude makes them go crazy for you. They want a strong man, they don’t want a pussy. Think for yourself. They are testing you and trying to wrap you around their little fingers, and as soon as you get lazy, as soon as you start making exceptions to your own rules, they lose respect for you.

The worst thing you can say to a woman is “Me too”. Me too is called ass kissing where I come from. Never ever kiss a woman’s ass. You guys have it all wrong, by the way. It’s not the jerks that are getting all the women and the nice guys that are getting none. It’s that the jerks display confidence and the nice guys display weakness. I think that a nice confident guy can get all the women he needs. You don’t have to deliberately act like a jerk to get women. It’s sad because a lot of guys believe that. Of course, it’s debatable that some women aren’t satisfied with a guy unless he abuses her, but who would want her?

Never tell a woman that one of her friends is better looking than her. I tell you to be honest, not stupid. She will never forget it and she will punish you for it. And what about the dreaded, “Do I look fat?” question? Tell her the truth. “Honey, I’m not comfortable answering that question!”

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